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10 Beliefs that will help you through life

1.I believe that people, strong and resilient though they may be, sometimes
require guidance

2.I believe that we, as social beings, require social relationships for our
well being. These relationships however, are a double-edged sword; they
are often the source of much of our heartache and struggle.

3.I believe that pain and tribulation is inevitable and necessary for growth.
However, I also believe that we have an innate and an enormous capacity
to heal and emerge even stronger from such experiences.

4.I believe that a low level of self-esteem is often at the heart of our
emotional struggle.

5.I believe that change is inevitable. It is a process and not

usually a quick fix. It requires time, effort, courage, awareness and openness.

6.I believe that unless we are in harmony with ourselves, we cannot be in
harmony with others.

7.I believe that people must be treated as a whole-and therefore, it is
critical to address issues of mind, body, spirit and environment.

8.I believe that a deeper understanding of oneself, a higher level of
awareness, and new ways to live more meaningful, happier lives are
possible through therapy.

9.I believe that a “victim mentality” is unhealthy, regardless of whether one
is a victim of trauma or unfortunate circumstances. This mentality leads to
blaming others, which does not help us to emotional well-being.

10.I believe that above all we all need to be heard, understood, accepted,
and validated.
Therapy can help us achieve this.

Mind-Body Healing

Mind and Body Healing

How am I really feeling? This is a question we don’t ask ourselves that often, even though we should. Are you happy or is there that underlying hint of from something you have not dealt with? Are you more tired than you realize? Is that stiff neck still bothering you?

We have the power to diagnose and heal ourselves. Taking a few moments a weeks to check in with our minds and our bodies can do a lot of good.

How do you do this?

Well, the most important step to self healing is believing in your own healing abilities. Belief is a powerful tool and can help you in everything. The best way to believe in self healing is to see it as something natural – not magical but know there will be a happier, healthier you.

1. You can start the process with a mental body scan meditation. This is an easy to do routine where you check your body for tension or aces. If it helps you can see yourself as a computer that needs to scan itself for malware.

2. Listen to what your body tells you and focus on the stress points. If something feels strange or painful it needs attention. Bring your attention to that spot and send love and positive images and words to that place, believe you are mentally massaging the pain away – or deleting the spyware as it where. If the pain is mental pain you had blocked try and re-shift your opinion on it, work on making the negative positive.

3. Rewire your brain, think more positive: the more you train your brain to have a positive outlook on life the happier you’ll feel.

4. Make changes in your life. Holding on to bad habits and toxic people can make you ill. Re-evaluate your attitudes, your social circle and your community. What changes can be made to it?

5. Look at your stress level. Stress related disorders are an epidemic these days. What can you do at work or at home to keep your anxiety level down and keep your body and mind as stress free a possible? Meditate on it, think about your day to day life and try and feel where you feel the stress creep in and how you could stop this from happening. Learn how to relax.

6. Exercise: relaxing and exercise are related: you can’t relax if you feel bloated or full. You will also feel groggy if you don’t move for at-least twenty minutes every day. Don’t stress yourself by thinking you must do certain exercises: a brisk walk, two hours of shopping (without the car!), dancing around the room, even walking while watching TV are just as valid as the exercises magazines and TV shows insist we do.

7. Eat healthy: try and incorporate some healthy food in your diet: add fruit, vegetables and water.

8. Have fun: start doing things you enjoy. Join clubs, meet new people, or go back to that old hobby you liked so much. Learn new skills. Do something that programs you to think that you matter.

Whatever you do, remember this: Always be kind to yourself. There is only one you!

Relationship Counseling

Relationship Counseling: Can It Really Work?

Relationship counseling, couples counseling, and/or marriage counseling are pretty common terms that seem to come up whenever people are talking about potential deal-breaking differences or conflicts between themselves and their partner or spouse. Sometimes, this form of counseling can also be used to help two family members or co-workers to work out their differences—but for the most part, the term ‘relationship counseling’ tends to be used interchangeably with ‘couples counseling’.

But here’s the big question… does it really work?

According to a quote by William Doherty (pHD, LCSW: source), it would seem that it certainly can—and usually does. Here’s what he said in a quote that was shared on the subject on webmd.com.

“Studies show that, in the hands of a good counselor, marriage counseling is successful 70- 80% of the time…”

Of course, the biggest goal (and challenge) with relationship counseling as a whole is to get both people involved to see the problems from a third-party perspective. People are often so caught up in how many problems the ‘other’ person is causing that they fail to look at themselves or the context—and therein lies the brunt of most relationship problems.

Couples counseling (or really any other type of relationship counseling) seeks to correct this by changing the perceptions of those involved. If both individuals can figure out what’s going wrong and why the problems are happening, then the possibility exists that they can change their behavior enough to begin the rebuilding process.

Broken trust, hurt feelings, bitterness, resentment, and full-fledged aggression can all play a part in the destruction of a relationship—but these things are often started in small, subtle ways. The biggest problems usually end up being simple problems that have been multiplied or repeated over and over again. And sometimes, simple fixes in behavior and attitude can make all the difference in the world.

Of course, relationships are complicated—which is why relationship counseling is sometimes the best choice when people just can’t seem to get along as well as they would like. It sometimes takes an outside perspective to really fit the pieces together, and that’s where a professional, experienced counselor can truly work wonders.

Looking for help is a sign of strength

It used to be that people sought therapy or counseling only if they were suffering from a mental illness. Often times people would forego seeking help just because there was a stigma attached. Things are fortunately changing and more people feel comfortable seeking out a therapist or counselor for guidance and personal growth. The main aim is to change the quality of life.
Looking for help or guidance is a sign of strength.

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